It is quite easy to find reasons, ah hmm, excuses for quitting something that once seemed to be of the utmost importance to us. We may feel tired, or rejected, or judged, or we may be dealing with personal pain. In any of these situations, laying the foundation well is necessary in any pursuit in which we hope to be successful.
Surprisingly, the greatest time of temptation to quit is in the early phases of developing the game plan or the groundwork. Why? Because it appears to be all work and no fun, and perhaps little, if any, compensation. It may be that we have to continue working a “real” job to build a bridge to get to the place to realize the dream that we believe God calls us to.
It’s often easy to find the right things to tell ourselves that will “allow” us to quit. We don’t have to look too far to see the challenges we will face if we make a commitment to see this dream to fruition. Some of the biggest areas we can get hung up on are the things we cannot change, all the while making excuses for not changing the things we are able to make a difference in.
How often have you felt empowered to do something, having ideas coming at you at rocket speed? So many, you barely want to sleep, but instead want to write down and proceed on everything that will lead you to this place of success. Stage two: enter discouragement. We begin to see all the obstacles when we take our eyes off the desired destination. We are tempted to quit because it is just too hard or we don’t have enough money, or so-in-so said it or tried it or whatever.
We echo what our friends are saying, “what was I thinking”? All the while, it is feeling better and easier if we abandon our efforts and resume our life of normal activities. We elect to remain as we were and tell ourselves we are happier now, having tried and failed and we can live more at peace.
Heads up! We don’t fail until we stop trying. Yep, that means when we give up, stop, cease, quit doing or making the effort, we have successfully failed at realizing what we may have hoped to see happen.
Sometimes we may feel a little jealous that someone else pursued where they wanted to be in life and it seemed to fall into place for them like a well-greased gear. Like clockwork. Why them? We ask. Why not us?
Other times, we may want too much too soon. We overextend our time or finances or abilities. Enter: stress trying to manage where we have bitten off more than we are able to chew for the moment. Growing in any facet requires a unique stretching, a building of integrity and ingenuity. It requires levels of flexibility and adaptability. We must be able to bend a little without breaking.
True success doesn’t come easily. It isn’t free of hurdles. It won’t feel good all day, everyday. It will be work and it will take patience and determination, creativity, sacrifice and moving beyond mistakes. It requires failing forward.
It will require changing all you can, accepting all that you can’t and continually seeking God for the wisdom to keep putting one foot in front of the other. Many times we may have to surrender our “agenda”. After we do all we can do, we may have to look to God to show up and do what ONLY He can do.
Carving out the life we want is not for the one who doesn’t have staying power. It will require more of everything than we have ever given before. It will stretch us many times to the point of feeling confused and into seasons that come with many questions and few answers.
All in all, if we keep on working our plan, success will come! The secret?
P E R S E V E R A N C E . That little extra something that wins out over affluence, education, natural ability or even status. It is the thing that separates winners from losers.
It is what the tortoise had over the hare. It is where the rubber meets the road. So, the question isn’t “IF” we can succeed at something, but “HOW” will I succeed at it? How many ways will I find to not give up until I reach the point that defines what I believe to be success for me personally?
When you find the answer, you, my Friend, will have found out just what you are made of? Enjoy the journey of self-discovery! It is the path to the best of life.
Sheri Geyer is a Christian Life Coach, Mentor, Writer, Wife & Mom