When we are faced with a crisis or struggle, it is tempting to despair. Despair often makes us feel immobilized.
But it’s in this struggle that the best opportunities emerge, if we are looking for them. A crisis is an opportunity to change, grow, learn, reflect, and become better. It’s where we discover who we are and how to find opportunities that were unimaginable before the crisis.
When I experienced divorce, I had to venture to find myself and learn to reinvent. It led me to an opportunity that allowed me to eventually have my own business.
When I failed at communication in my relationships, I learned to improve and grow better.
When I ended up closing the business I had purchased, it led me to start one in light of the current season in life where I can coach, mentor and provide insight in things I’ve learned.
When my children have experienced difficulties and I am powerless to change anything, it has helped me develop more patience, learn the power of raw emotions and what can happen when you alter your perspective.
When my husband and I have arguments it is an opportunity to learn more about each other and grow closer and become better at finding common ground. I’ve learned that conflict, once resolved, brings intimacy.
When my daughters grew up and left to meet their appointments in life, I learned to grieve the loss of a simpler life when they were with me and to be vigilant to watch them soar as I cheer them on from the opposite side of the country.
There is more opportunity for reflection, growth and sustainable change during adversity than any other time. We can focus on finding the “more” of life. It is the place where we can find renewed hope when all else seems bleak. It is here that we often renew our faith in God who uses challenges to lead us to greater purpose in life.
We have the opportunity to find the good in the struggle, if we choose to look. I have learned that we will pretty much find whatever we expect to find. If we look for the good, it is evident in places we may never have considered. If we look for the bad things, they seem to multiply and be enlarged in every direction we seek.
Life is about perception. What do you perceive to be the good that can come from your present set of circumstances? If you feel you’ve hit bottom, there is only one place to look ~ up!
Be careful not to step on the orchids while searching for the roses. Rare are the opportunities that come tagged with a guarantee for success.
Life as you know it may change. Who said it would be easy? But what’s to say it won’t be good, even better. Let go of all that isn’t working for you and step up to opportunity that may be the thing you would’ve never imagined.
So when life as I knew it changed and I felt paralyzed, I purposed that each day I will get up, show up and do the best I can with what lies before me. I never knew how well life could work until I decided to do the next basic “right” thing and allow the opportunities each day to be treated as something of value as opposed to something I would dread.
The irony is that I have learned that when I work to overcome that which cripples me with fear, the unknown, I find things really do happen for a reason!
Sheri Geyer is a Christian Life Coach, Writer, Speaker, Mentor, Wife & Mom